tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-61942919641231137472024-02-20T08:54:20.274-08:00Releasing Limiting Emotions with the Sedona Method BlogMaking it Easier to Release Your Limiting Feelings and Love Your Life!Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6194291964123113747.post-85746843064545103642009-03-05T13:19:00.000-08:002009-03-05T13:44:46.054-08:00Experience of Oneness Walking With Olivia and Harry (the dog)This morning I did the Sedona process called Likes and Dislikes about <span style="font-style: italic;">humanity.</span> I had realized that I was reacting a lot with aversion to the way that humans are, so thought this would be a good process to do. <span style="font-style: italic;"><br /></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal">A lot came up! I discovered how mixed my feelings are about humanity, how these attachments and aversions interfere with my serving humanity wholeheartedly. It seems that I have been still making up my mind about us as a species!</p> <p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p> So, I did lots of releasing around this topic and then went to mind my grandchild Olivia for the day.<br /> <p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal">As i walked with Olivia and Harry the dog on that lovely afternoon, I was aware that the three of us walking together down a country lane looked idyllic, on the outside. I even sensed others passing by seeing us that way. Yet I was uncomfortable inside. Fear kept coming up for no apparent outer reason. I kept welcoming it and letting it go - and noticed I was subtly annoyed with myself for having the fear. I let that go a few times too. Then I noticed resistance arising to many things I saw - junk, litter, weeds and so on. I was very tuned into ugliness!<br /></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal">I kept releasing..... and something shifted. Suddenly I was able to welcome everything as it was in the moment, even the rubbish. I saw the rubbish as no different from the toys that Olivia litters the house with. Just as I can easily see beauty in her play and in the household disorder it creates, in that moment I could see beauty even in the rubbish and the weeds. In that instant I saw that beauty is everywhere, even in terrible circumstances. Beauty is in the way things<span style="font-style: italic;"> are.</span><br />So many artists have shown us this and have opened our eyes to different forms of beauty. Often we use our concept of beauty to define other things as ugliness and to block out our seeing of them. When we open to what is, we can see the beauty in everything. I could see in that sublime moment that people who litter are simply where they are, having not yet grown into the understanding that order serves humanity; having not yet progressed to valuing serving humanity in that way. I was totally free of blame for anyone who littered, or who might have had the responsibility to teach others not to litter, and had not yet succeeded in that. I was completely steady and content in the truth that all these "not yet reached understandings" are simply that. My own and theirs – we have grown as far as we have, that’s all there is to it. It felt exquisite to be surrounded by unlimited forms of beauty, to be surrounded totally by beauty. I felt light and strong - and effortlessly picked up some litter!<br /></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6194291964123113747.post-9413990439501756332009-01-23T13:46:00.000-08:002009-01-23T13:57:17.630-08:00Letting Go to Open Your Heart and Be in the FlowI awoke feeling guilty this morning. Uncomfortable feelings rose up and stuck into me like pins. Pictures and thoughts about having not achieved what I wanted the previous day pricked me. Then my mind projected forward to the coming day’s plans and I felt another bunch of prickly feelings and thoughts jump into my awareness. Waves of feelings and thoughts crowded in like a barbed wire fence trapping me. My mind said: <span style="font-style: italic;">Yesterday I ‘indulged’, I was bad, I didn’t do what I should have. Now today I said I’d help my friend catch her sheep for shearing. That seemed like a fun idea. Now I don’t feel like I have time. Helping someone else feels tricky. I’m not sure I can afford the time now. Yesterday I stayed out later than expected and I left Mary at home alone too and she probably felt neglected. That was selfish! Today I could take Mary with me and give her a treat, but that would spoil my outing helping my friend which I had been looking forward to. I don’t know what to do! I don’t want to have to work this out!</span> Ouch! It was horrible. All these sharp feelings of guilt and shoulds were prickling me!<br /><br />So what did my mind do? It fell back on its old habit of protection – it justified. I caught my mind saying <span style="font-style: italic;">“I needed my space last night, I shouldn’t have to spoil today’s outing by taking Mary along just because I needed my space yesterday should I? I’ll help my friend. I have to do that , and I want to. She’ll be all right. Mary doesn’t mind. </span>Bit by bit my mind used excuses to shove down the guilt and shame feelings and I felt “better”, sort of, as I started trudging effortfully towards the day’s agreed event, pretending that I was looking forward to it, with no real enthusiasm.<br /><br />Then I remembered! I could release the feelings! I could let them go! Immediately I did some releases, just allowing the feelings to be there and letting them go. I dug a little deeper and found that wanting approval was underneath the feelings, and I let that go too. I did this a few times then forgot about it and got on with preparing for the day. A few minutes later a wave of open-hearted feeling suddenly arose in me, complete with a clear image of taking Mary on the outing and enjoying it thoroughly. In one moment, one delicious, complete flash of love and joy, I saw, felt and thought the rightness and perfection of taking Mary along and giving her pleasure, and knew that to be with her would be just as much of a pleasure to me. I felt light and happy and I looked forward with enthusiasm to the day ahead.<br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">Reflections on this heart opening experience</span><br /><br />As I reflected back I realised that immediately after releasing I had become clear about the day. I had started to prepare easily, with conviction, without even thinking about it. Then the instantaneous picture of being out with Mary, as I helped my friend, just ‘arrived’ and told me a host of truths in one moment. I knew in that moment not only what to do and that I would enjoy the day, but that I would also benefit the work I had believed that I had neglected the day before. My open heart told me in a flash that all things would be served by my taking Mary with me and being wholeheartedly with her, as I helped my friend.<br /><br />In essence I re-discovered the immense and awesome power of releasing.<br /><br />It’s really very simple. Releasing opens your heart, and with an open heart our action flows effortlessly, and serves the good of all.<br /><br />I am so grateful to have this simple and powerful method in my life and to be able to share it with you.Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6194291964123113747.post-10843951065527666522008-10-14T04:52:00.000-07:002008-10-14T05:01:40.385-07:00Serenity in Times of UncertaintyAre you feeling anxious, even a bit panicky about the financial state of the world. See an excellent article <a href="http://www.sedona.com/calm-in-financial-storm.aspx">here</a> on the Sedona Method website to feel much better straight away. Here's a short extract:<br /><br /><p><span style="font-family:Arial;"><span style="font-size:10;"><span style="font-size:12;"><span style="font-size:10;">Remember, anxiety, panic, stress and worry do nothing to support you in making the right decisions. Instead, the more you can make decisions from a place of inner calmness and mental clarity the more likely your decisions will be supportive of your overall financial goals and well-being and the safety and well-being of those around you and the planet as a whole.<br /></span></span></span></span></p> <p><span style="font-family:Arial;"><span style="font-size:10;"><span style="font-size:12;"><span style="font-size:10;">The very best thing to do when you find yourself panicking is to allow yourself to welcome whatever you're feeling about the current world situation and about your current financial situation. Also allow yourself to welcome any wanting to change or control how you feel. As you do this you will find that the stress and tension of the moment will dissolve into a calm pool of certainty and inner strength.</span></span></span></span></p> <p align="center"><strong><span style="font-family:Arial;"><span style="font-size:10;"><span style="font-size:12;"><span style="font-size:10;">“I released truckloads of fear and wanting survival because of the possible meltdown of the world’s financial system.”<br /></span></span></span></span><em><span style="font-family:Arial;"><span style="font-size:10;"><span style="font-size:12;"><span style="font-size:10;">Norm Hall<br /></span></span></span></span></em></strong></p> <div align="center"><span style="font-family:Arial;"><span style="font-size:10;"><span style="font-size:12;"><span style="font-size:10;">Welcoming the feelings may seem counterintuitive, but it’s a necessary step in the process of letting go. As you’ll learn when you delve deeper into letting go with The Sedona Method, the more you resist a feeling, the stronger its hold on you becomes. When you welcome a feeling, however, the resistance fades away while your ability to let the feeling go gets stronger. Simply welcoming a feeling fully can often allow it to dissolve completely.<br /><br /><strong>“The company I work for has announced plans for a layoff that we expect next week. No one really knows where the cuts will be and all are worried. I have never been good at being cut, so I used the method to release on the fear and anxiety that I am experiencing and I got a whole lot more than I thought I would.</strong> </span></span></span></span></div> <p align="center"><strong><span style="font-family:Arial;"><span style="font-size:10;"><span style="font-size:12;"><span style="font-size:10;">First, I released victim mentality, also, it's a job, it's not me. In the past I felt I was the job. The Sedona Method has changed the outcome and outlook of my entire life. I feel so validated and free. I know that I am, and nothing can take that away without me willing it so.”<br /><em>Mike Gallemore<br /></em></span></span></span></span></strong></p> <p><span style="font-family:Arial;"><span style="font-size:10;"><span style="font-size:12;"><span style="font-size:10;">After welcoming the feeling, ask yourself in this moment if you could simply let go. By allowing yourself to welcome what you feel and then letting it go, you will immediately feel relief. This will also bring you more access to your intuitive knowing-ness and the clarity of clear reason required for you to weather the storm. </span></span></span></span></p> <p align="center"><strong><span style="font-family:Arial;"><span style="font-size:10;"><span style="font-size:12;"><span style="font-size:10;">“I came to The Sedona Method to find tools for living my life with greater freedom, ease and joy. My realization is that the freedom, ease and joy are already present. I only needed to remove the thoughts, feelings and emotions that were covering them up all this time.”</span></span></span></span><em><br /><span style="font-family:Arial;"><span style="font-size:10;"><span style="font-size:12;"><span style="font-size:10;">Paul Hathaway<br /></span></span></span></span></em></strong></p> <span style="font-family:Arial;"><span style="font-size:10;"><span style="font-size:12;"><span style="font-size:10;"></span></span></span></span>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6194291964123113747.post-27680928773700590972008-10-08T05:15:00.000-07:002008-10-08T05:17:23.284-07:00A releaser's experience received today!<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-size: 11pt; color: rgb(31, 73, 125); font-family: 'Calibri','sans-serif';"><span style="font-style: italic;">"Releasing does work Alice – and I have to say that I have just spent the most peaceful school holidays in such a long while – the benefits of the Sedona Method are so subtle but definite and what I am finding is that the talk within is much more accepting, positive and gentle to my soul and general disposition."</span><o:p></o:p></span></p>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6194291964123113747.post-88673600408583914102008-10-07T20:46:00.000-07:002008-10-08T04:17:13.756-07:00Inspiring Conference Talk Achieved through ReleasingMy last blog post was about releasing my fear and being inspired to write a story. That story became the opening element of my <a href="http://www.lifeenergycoaching.com.au/blog/2008/09/">talk at the Early Childhood Australia conference</a> – and exactly hit the spot with the audience! It illustrated my presentation perfectly. Interestingly, I went through intense doubts about the story along the way. Some of the people I tried the story out with didn’t get it. I got a very unsure about whether the story was any good. I kept releasing and found an underlying faith that it would work. Then, once I was in the room with the audience of seventy child caregivers, the story came to life. I could feel their deep interest, and when I got to the punch line, many actually gasped!<br /><br />After that day when the story 'arrived', a stream of daily inspirations ‘landed’ in the mornings just after waking. Each day I would wake with some fear and dread present, another layer of my limiting beliefs about the forthcoming conference presentation having surfaced. Each morning I welcomed the arising of those fears and let them go. After releasing the emotion, a "downloading" of inspirations would generally follow, addressing the very area I had been stressed about. Then I would find myself getting up and energetically springing into the day. Every time the idea would work out.<br /><br />This was such a magical process - except that it felt very normal! It felt how life is meant to work. The truth is, the answers we need are simply there, as long as I let go of the emotions that block them. I found myself genuinely welcoming the uncomfortable emotions that were triggered, by fearful thoughts that I didn't know how to do something.<br /><br />I have found the key is to truly see the uncomfortable emotions that are triggered as a good sign! It gets easier and easier to do this as each release of emotion leads to a next step that works out. You can’t pretend! It’s no use simulating welcoming the emotion – the subconscious sees through all pretense. When you actually welcome the emotion, the release follows and the inner wisdom becomes available.<br /><br />By releasing and then listening to these early morning inspirations, I easily asked for help from many people with just the skills I needed and they all said yes with such generosity. In fact in some cases they offered their help spontaneously.<br /><br />The success of the story, the way the message of the whole talk resonated, the people I attracted, have given me even more trust in the inspirations that I received when I released my limiting emotions.<br /><br />From having been the ultimate lone ranger, wanting to work in a team but not knowing how to achieve it, I found myself with a wonderful team of people supporting this venture, all contributing their high level skills with graciousness and enthusiasm. It was extraordinary how it all just flowed!<br /><br />This is just a brief overview of the power of releasing throughout this conference adventure. I could write much more. (Read a fuller account <a href="http://www.lifeenergycoaching.com.au/ECAEmpathytalkexperience.doc">here</a>)<br /><br />My purpose in telling you about this experience is to encourage you to release everything! Take in that you can welcome any emotion; that most uncomfortable feelings come from suppressed emotions from the past, triggered by current stimuli; that when we welcome feelings and release them, our true, wise inner nature is revealed and we receive inspiration and inner guidance.<br /><br />Releasing our emotions, letting go of trying to control them, is the key to a wonderful flowing way of living.Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6194291964123113747.post-82508116370596737072008-09-08T17:05:00.000-07:002008-09-08T17:22:38.841-07:00Releasing Fear and Enabling Effective ActionMany exciting opportunities and directions are developing with my work at the moment. Along with all the great things happening come some extremely intense reactions to DOING some of the actual steps I need to take to get all this happening. A lot of resistance and fear comes up. I keep letting it go and have taken some significant steps.<br /><br />I have a major event scheduled for early October <a href="http://www.lifeenergycoaching.com.au/blog/2008/09/">(read about it here</a>). I was getting really terrified about being ready for the conference, so I did this exercise about fear.<br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">Shortcut for Letting go of Fear Exercise</span><br />Ask yourself, when you feel afraid :<br /><br /><span style="font-style: italic;">What is it I don't want to have happen? </span><br />Write down your first thought.<br /><span style="font-style: italic;">Welcome the feelings, the sensations in the body, the pictures and sounds (and thoughts are just sounds and pictures) that come up with that response.</span><br />Now ask: <span style="font-style: italic;">Could I let go of wanting that to happen? </span><br /><br />This oddball question tends to bring about a release easily! Just keep doing it over and over until you feel as much relief from the fear as you would like.<br /><br />This exercise comes from the understanding that whenever we're afraid we are focusing on what we don't want to have happen, and one part of us<span style="font-style: italic;"> wants</span> that to happen! When we let go fo that irrational 'want', we are freer and able to act.<br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">Outstanding Results from The Letting Go of Fear Release</span><br />I did this exercise for a while this morning when I woke feeling really full of dread about the conference presentation. I listed in my mind the things I don't want to have happen, one by one and let them go, as described above.<br /><br />One of these was that I don't want to find myself not well prepared and just winging it - doing an OK job but not the way I envisioned it, and losing the opportunity to make an impact and get these ideas really out there. I thought about how I want the talk to have powerful stories and images - and I get scared that I can't do that. What I didn't want to have happen is that I don't have well prepared and engaging stories. I let that fear go, let go of 'wanting that to happen'. Immediately, I remembered the class I am going to tonight which is an "Acting Class" (with skills for presentations in mind) at which we were to present a piece that we had practiced - using a special imaging and memory process to make it very engaging and memorable. I recalled that it was to prepare this presentation that I joined the class! I remembered that I intended to write my own story and present that.<br /><br />A story came back to me and so I got up at 5.30 and and wrote it with ease and will present it tonight! I'm very pleased and intend to get up early to write every morning this week so I get all the pieces I need for my first practice talk next Monday properly prepared. It's feeling much more doable now. Because I released the fear I was able to take the action I needed to take. My whole week started so well as a result of that early morning releasing practice.Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6194291964123113747.post-38563754752333149092008-09-02T22:28:00.000-07:002008-09-02T22:34:15.730-07:00A New "Releaser" Reports Strong Gains!<span style="font-weight: bold;">Share from a participant in a recent </span><span style="font-style: italic; font-weight: bold;">Release Your Limiting Feelings and Find Happiness </span><span style="font-weight: bold;">workshop: </span><p></p><p style="font-style: italic;" class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-size:130%;">“The releasing results have been phenomenal! I ‘got it’ that day of the workshop and it’s been really good for me. So many things that were stuck have moved on easily. I’ve found a house to move to, and even feel excited about doing it up. I’ve found a new school for my daughters at last. I’ve been releasing my reactions to my ex-husband before I speak and things are so much better between us. </span></p> <p style="font-style: italic;" class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-size:130%;"><o:p> </o:p></span></p> <p style="font-style: italic;" class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-size:130%;">I’ve found releasing a lot easier process to do than any other, and I’ve done lots of processes. I like that it feels so free of everything, and can be used everywhere. It’s really easy for me. It’s made such a difference that first I acknowledge my feelings and then I can release them. The shift is that this process honours my feelings where before I used to try to push them away and distract myself from them. By honouring them first I find it so easy to release them and everything has started to flow.” </span></p>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6194291964123113747.post-16135329451139479482008-09-02T22:07:00.000-07:002008-09-02T22:35:23.016-07:00I don't want to release my anger!<span style="font-weight: bold;">The Question</span><br /><span style="font-size:130%;">"My daughter at 24 has a chronic 'mental illness' with a severe eating disorder... in and out of hospital every couple of months with no desire to get well. I have tried to help her and have made agreements with her that she has broken. . Her behaviour has been manipulative, lying, cheating, secretive, and very hurtful.</span><br />I find myself rageful that I have allowed myself to become totally exhausted mentally & physically with financial difficulties, turning myself inside out, trying to help her, thinking my efforts could change the situation, but, she doesn’t want to help herself. She is addicted.<br />I even I lost my job and looked after her 24/7 for 6 weeks while waiting for a supported care place to become available. I could not leave her for even 1/2 hr.<br /><span style="font-size:130%;">I have been doing the welcoming of the anger, exploring what comes up, and find I don't want to release it, I am still so incredibly angry and I don't want to be in touch with her at all. I know the anger is damaging. I need some advice please.”<br /></span><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;font-size:130%;" >Alice's Response</span><span style="font-size:130%;"><br />It's very understandable that you are resistant to releasing the anger. This is a difficult situation which would press anyone's buttons.<br /><br />It’s important to remember that </span><span style="font-weight: bold;font-size:130%;" >the fiercely angry feelings </span><span style="font-weight: bold;font-size:130%;" > you are experiencing come from programs from your own past</span><span style="font-size:130%;">, from the traumas of your own childhood, they are not actually caused by the situation that triggers them. The good thing is that when the feelings are triggered that’s your chance to release those past programs.<br /><br />Remember also that what you are doing is releasing the power of the anger to control you, and your wanting to control the anger. </span><span style="font-weight: bold;font-size:130%;" >This is how you become free of the power these old programs have over you. </span><span style="font-size:130%;">You can just let the anger be, allow it, welcome it, and it will simply pass through. Allowing yourself to have the anger, allowing the anger pass through, is different from 'being angry'. In other words you let go of identifying with the anger as who you are.</span><br /><br />Anger is damaging, as you said, however trying to stop it or control it and make it go away or judging ourselves for having it are also damaging. <span style="font-weight: bold;">All efforts to change our feelings are limiting to us. </span>By allowing our feelings we are not giving them more power but actually less.<br /><br />You could welcome all the layers of feelings that are arising. In your ragefulness about having let yourself become so affected by this, can you hear that there is judgment of yourself? You could welcome that judgment too. Just welcome each layer of feeling as it arises. <span style="font-weight: bold;">Everything that is arising can be welcomed and you could let it go. </span><br /><br />Is there also some fear that is lurking under the anger?<span style="font-weight: bold;"> Often we fear letting anger go because we believe that we will become powerless without it</span>. Anger is a very limited way to have power. When we allow our anger and fear and all the other lower order emotions to arise and subside, we gain access to our higher energies and when we act from those we serve ourselves, others and the situation much better.<br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">Don’t look for instant results.</span> Consider each time that you release that you are making an uplifting choice that is much more beneficial than getting caught in the usual turmoil of churning thoughts and feelings. <span style="font-weight: bold;">It’s worth persisting.</span> <span style="font-weight: bold;">This is also the most loving thing that you can do for your daughter.</span> It is not necessary that you force yourself to be in touch with her. Allow your feelings to run their course and dissipate themselves, by welcoming and releasing. The energy to contact her will arise at the right time. You could hold the intention to do whatever best serves the situation and trust yourself to do that, while keeping your focus on releasing the feelings as your current action.<br /><br />Releasing your heavy emotions around this situation will serve you and your daughter and your relationship. <span style="font-weight: bold;">There is no danger in it. </span>Releasing is never dangerous, although because we are so used to suppressing and holding on, it feels as though it might be.<br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">Remember the dropping of the pen. You really can drop any emotion like that</span>. Feel that sense of dropping it inside and keep doing it over and over. Sometimes the results are immediate and sometimes they are felt hours later or the next day.<br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">What are the origins of “misbehaviour”? </span><br />Also you might explore the idea that all misbehaviour has its origins in the person's past and how their brain has been affected. It is about them not about you. Perhaps because it is so hard for you to understand how your much loved child could have sufficient reasons to behave in these awful ways, you can't accept or forgive her behaviour.<br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">When you behave "badly", can you sense that there is a reason underneath, even if you don't know what it is?</span> Do you sense that there is an explanation in your past experience? <span style="font-weight: bold;">Even with our own children, we don't know all of their experience,</span> we don't even know that she wasn't born with some brain lesion.<br /><br />My studies in this area have led me to see all human misbehaviour as the result of neurological programs reflecting our past - and that could include physical differences in the brain that we not aware of, as well as emotional experience, and past lives even.<span style="font-weight: bold;"> Certainly the evidence is that people's behaviour is rooted in their past. </span><br /><br />This is not to say that you should forgive her or should do anything different. <span style="font-weight: bold;">None of this is about shoulds.</span> Just that it might be easier to respond to the situation in the most helpful way all round, if you can see it with understanding and the sense that no-one is to blame. <span style="font-weight: bold;">The less we feel angry and blaming the stronger we can be in setting up appropriate boundaries. </span>However we become less angry and blaming by allowing our feelings and letting them release, not by denying or suppressing them.<br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">Not blaming also does not mean exposing ourselves to attack or danger</span>. We don't blame a fierce animal but we do make sure we are not in danger of attack. Your ability to make detached decisions about what to do will be greatly strengthened by releasing. Your decisions will also be more heart centred. It's paradoxical perhaps, but that is definitely what happens. So there's no downside to it. <span style="font-weight: bold;">There really is only gain from releasing. </span><br /><br />I hope this helps you to release.<br /><br />warm regards, AliceUnknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6194291964123113747.post-25434301654496458782008-08-26T23:35:00.000-07:002008-08-27T02:26:06.182-07:00Welcome Your "Button Pushers" to Clear Out "Rubbish"!<p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family:arial;"><span style=";font-size:130%;color:black;" ><span style="color:black;">Josie wrote this to me recently and I have replied here to share with all of you.<br /></span></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family:arial;"><span style=";font-size:130%;color:black;" ><span style="color:black;"><span style="font-style: italic;">"I still allow myself to get terribly hurt by some people’s bitchiness. I really wish I didn’t. I’d like to think I’m stronger than that. So something happened yesterday at work; I tried releasing – but, gee, it’s really challenging when a situation still has so much heat in it.</span><o:p></o:p></span></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family:arial;"><span style=";font-size:130%;color:black;" ><span style="color:black;"><span style="font-style: italic;">So I wait a bit for the heat to cool – then I find the feeling of release can come."</span></span></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family:arial;"><span style="font-size:130%;">It's great Josie that you see that you are </span><span style="font-style: italic;font-size:130%;" >allowing yourself</span><span style="font-size:130%;"> to get hurt - in other words, you know that you have the power to let go of allowing that, when you are ready. </span></p><p style="font-family: arial;" class="MsoNormal" face="arial">Here are a few ways that you could approach this:<br /></p><p class="MsoNormal" face="arial">Firstly, you could ask yourself if you are wanting your feeling of hurt to be different, if you want to change it. The answer will be yes, because you said you wished you didn't feel that way! Then ask yourself: Could I let go of wanting to change it? Would I? When? Repeat this and let go, as best you can, just for now, each time. Just keep welcoming and letting go and release will happen.<br /></p><p class="MsoNormal" face="arial">Another way, in the moment that the wave of painful hurt feeling comes up, is to simply ask yourself: Could I welcome this feeling? Just open to it in that moment as best you can. You can simply allow the feeling to be there.<br /></p><p class="MsoNormal" face="arial">It's strange, but the more you welcome feelings the less easy it is to label them as 'good ' or 'bad' feelings. Actually all feelings are just a sign that you are alive! They're just emotional 'weather', not who you are, not the 'truth'.<br /></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family: arial;">Sometimes when I welcome a feeling that is bothering me I get a flash of feeling fine about the feeling being there. In that moment I almost <span style="font-style: italic;">relish</span> the 'painful' feeling! It's like I'm able to appreciate the feeling for what it is. I just love that! It's quite wild! Best of all the sense of fighting the feeling goes, and I feel so free.<br /></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family: arial;">Remember also that you don't have to force releasing - in fact it doesn't work to do so. <span style="font-style: italic;">Trying</span> to release is another form of wanting to change it. <span style="font-weight: bold;">Welcoming or allowing the feeling is the first step to releasing.</span> So welcome first, then ASK of you could release it and answer truthfully, yes or no. Both are valid answers. If you go through that process, you have released that layer of feeling. The next layer of feeling may then arise. It may feel similar, but it is new layer. Next you welcome that feeling and ask if you could release it.</p><p style="font-family: arial; font-weight: bold;" class="MsoNormal">The key understanding is that you are not trying to get rid of feelings but allowing them to FLOW. </p><p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family: arial;">Freely flowing feelings release themselves, that's their nature. </p><p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family:arial;">A further valuable approach to this kind of situation is to <span style="font-weight: bold;">sit down calmly at home and do some written releasing about your relationship with that person</span>. You could use the Likes/Dislikes process, the Cleanup Procedure or other processes from the Relationship Magic chapter in the book <span style="font-style: italic;">The Sedona Method.</span> When someone 'pushes your buttons" it is such an opportunity to free yourself of the pocket of reaction that they have brought to the surface for you.<br /></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family:arial;"><span style="font-weight: bold;">Be grateful and seize the opportunity to let go of the 'inner rubbish' your 'button pushers" have so obligingly surfaced for you! </span></p><p style="font-family: arial;" class="MsoNormal">warm regards, Alice<br /></p>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6194291964123113747.post-33660673503150088612008-08-26T23:17:00.000-07:002008-09-02T22:38:13.371-07:00Welcoming "Uncomfortableness" and Becoming Free<div style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);"><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);font-family:Arial;font-size:130%;" ><span class="046384823-25082008">What I love about this work of coaching is the big shifts people make so naturally and easily, as they release the reactions that have held them back. It <span style="font-style: italic;">still </span>astounds me that looking inside and releasing our reactions to things can have such a profound effect on our lives. But I no longer doubt that it does!<br /><br />A client who was very stuck and fed up in her job her relationship and vision of the future is, a few months and sessions later, in a new job where she feels valued and energized, has renewed her relationship and is bouncing along happily in her life. This is what i wrote to her as she completed the coaching contract she had with me:<br /><br /><span style="font-style: italic;">"Do go back and review your goals at the start, look at "then and now", see your gains and say WOW!<br /><br />Remember that you can allow yourself to get stuck again, and you will get stuck again, if you just let the knee jerk reactions rule. You have cleared some of them away forever. That means there's a golden opportunity to welcome the next reactions that are triggered and let them go. </span><br /><br /><span style="font-style: italic;">That's the key, notice the reactions that are coming up, WELCOME them; take your attention off the nasty person or thing that has brought this uncomfortableness into your life, thank that stimulus, whatever it is, for giving you the opportunity to release. Own the reaction as yours, not theirs, without blame. You aren't at fault for having it. It just is, and when it arises into consciousness, that's the gift, because NOW you're conscious of it, you can let it go and be free."</span></span></span></div> <div style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);"><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 128);font-family:Arial;font-size:130%;" ><span class="046384823-25082008"></span></span> </div>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6194291964123113747.post-70394527252591359112008-07-30T01:02:00.000-07:002008-08-26T23:16:53.235-07:00Taking the Opportunity and Successfully Releasing a "Bad Day at Work"Here's an extract from an email sent to me by a client this week:<br /><br /><span style="font-style: italic;">"I had a bad day at work yesterday, a case of lights being pretty dim!! There were numerous events which took place, hopefully most my boss doesn’t know about!</span><p style="font-style: italic;"></p> <p style="font-style: italic;" class="MsoNormal">I decided it was a good opportunity for some releasing, so last night as I went to bed, I practiced some releasing over the days events. I could not put words to the feelings; however, because the feelings were "fresh" I didn't really have to at that stage (and when I now think about it, children are able to release but not put feelings into "words").</p> <p style="font-style: italic;" class="MsoNormal">I felt it worked, today's a new day! If I hadn't done some releasing last night, I don't know if my reaction today would have been quite the same! I would have beaten myself up over it a bit more."</p> <p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal">I wrote back as follows:<br /></p><p class="MsoNormal">Congratulations on seeing the opportunity and doing some releasing after a "bad day". Wow, it takes courage and commitment to do that when your feelings have been giving you a hard time all day and the mistakes made on such a day usually trigger lots more reactions too!</p><p class="MsoNormal">These challenging times are the best opportunities to grow, and you saw that and took up the challenge. <span style="font-weight: bold;">It's only when our "worst" feelings come to the surface</span> that we can let them go. So it's fantastic that you did it - and that you "felt it work".<br /></p><p class="MsoNormal">Releasing always does "work" at some level of course, but feeling it immediately is so nice isn't it. By the way, I think you would have beaten yourself up over it a lot more if you hadn't released don't you!</p> <p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p> <p style="font-weight: bold;" class="MsoNormal">Next step - see if you can remember to release <span style="font-style: italic;">during </span>the "bad day".</p> <p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal">Happy releasing! <st1:city st="on"><st1:place st="on"><br /></st1:place></st1:city></p><p class="MsoNormal"><st1:city st="on"><st1:place st="on">Alice</st1:place></st1:city></p><p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-weight: bold;">Another thing, I </span><span style="font-style: italic; font-weight: bold;">loved</span><span style="font-weight: bold;"> your insight about children not needing to name the feeling to release it! That's <span style="font-style: italic;">wonderful</span>, so true and it never occurred to me! I'll spread the word about that one. </span><br /><!--[if !supportLineBreakNewLine]--><br /><!--[endif]--></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6194291964123113747.post-58599821774454351252007-06-21T23:08:00.000-07:002007-06-24T17:52:36.557-07:00Giving and Receiving Peace<o:p></o:p><span style="font-family:Verdana;">Do you long to feel more peace?<br />You can! Peace doesn’t come from outside, it’s a ray of your own heart.<br />You can learn how to radiate <span style="font-style: italic;">the energy of any feeling</span>, to yourself, and to everyone and everything.<br /><br />Here are some steps:<o:p></o:p></span> <p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family:Verdana;"><o:p> </o:p></span></p> <ol style="margin-top: 0in;" start="1" type="1"><li class="MsoNormal" style=""><span style="font-family:Verdana;">Sit in a place where you can relax and be undisturbed for 10-15 minutes. Sit in a balanced upright posture and take a few long slow breaths, just watching the breath, and relaxing and letting go more and more with each out breath.<br /> <!--[if !supportLineBreakNewLine]--><br /> <!--[endif]--><o:p></o:p></span></li><li class="MsoNormal" style=""><span style="font-family:Verdana;">Now, imagine you have an “element” in the heart region of your chest– perhaps like the element of an old fashioned radiant heater, some kind of “coil” that glows and give out energy.<br /> <br /> Imagine this as <span style="font-style: italic;">concretely</span> as you can in any form that makes sense to you.<br /> <!--[if !supportLineBreakNewLine]--><br /> <!--[endif]--><o:p></o:p></span></li><li class="MsoNormal" style=""><span style="font-family:Verdana;">"Switch on" this energy coil and see the energy radiating from it and bathing every part of your body from the inside.<br /> <br /> What colour is the energy? How does it feel?<br /> <!--[if !supportLineBreakNewLine]--><br /> <!--[endif]--><o:p></o:p></span></li><li class="MsoNormal" style=""><span style="font-family:Verdana;">Play with changing the colours of the energy radiating from your energy radiator. Have fun!<br /> Breath evenly in to your heart region, where the coil is, as you do this.<br /> <!--[if !supportLineBreakNewLine]--><br /> <!--[endif]--><o:p></o:p></span></li><li class="MsoNormal" style=""><span style="font-family:Verdana;">Now hold the word PEACE in your awareness. You may hear the word, see it, feel the energy of peace. Feel this feeling in your heart region.<br /> <!--[if !supportLineBreakNewLine]--><br /> <!--[endif]--><o:p></o:p></span></li><li class="MsoNormal" style=""><span style="font-family:Verdana;">Now imagine switching a knob on your energy radiator to its PEACE setting. Start to radiate the feeling of peace with your energy radiator. Allow it to be any colour that appears when you hold the awareness of peace. Radiate that colour all around you body. Bathe your body in the energy and colour of peace. Relish it. Absorb it deeply.<br /> <!--[if !supportLineBreakNewLine]--><br /> <!--[endif]--><o:p></o:p></span></li><li class="MsoNormal" style=""><span style="font-family:Verdana;">Stay with giving and receiving the energy of peace, until you feel it is time to finish this practice.<br /> <!--[if !supportLineBreakNewLine]--><br /> <!--[endif]--></span></li></ol> <p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p> <h3>Variations:</h3> <ul style="margin-top: 0in;" type="disc"><li class="MsoNormal" style=""><span style="font-family:Verdana;">Allow the radiation to go our further, when you are ready and it feels strong enough. As your power grows with this practice, as you radiate peace to yourself and receive it, you can radiate peace to everything and everyone in the room, the building, the area, the world, the universe.<br /> <!--[if !supportLineBreakNewLine]--><br /> <!--[endif]--><o:p></o:p></span></li><li class="MsoNormal" style=""><span style="font-family:Verdana;">Change the quality that you want to radiate. You can cultivate sending to yourself, and beyond, any quality you choose. Try kindness, or gratitude. What quality do you want to experience more of? <span style=""> </span><o:p></o:p></span></li></ul> <p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family:Verdana;"><o:p> </o:p></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6194291964123113747.post-7029526568759214702007-04-26T18:50:00.000-07:002007-07-14T04:20:26.360-07:00Parenting our Creative Work<span style=";font-family:Arial;font-size:10;" ><o:p></o:p></span><span style=";font-family:Arial;font-size:10;" >An idea has just come up for me that I need to change my relationship with my work - and in fact to see it as the work I have been given to bring into the world. It comes from the understanding that the core of our humanity is that we are co-creators with the universe (or God or whatever name you use for the “great good thing’ which is the source of and is this universe). <span style=""> </span>As I see it we human have each been given a task and it is a great one. We have a unique co-creation which is forming and it will be as great we are willing to allow it to be. Ultimately we are the creative product of our creative work, our divine work. This creation of ourselves progresses via our creative projects. Each creative project is not ours alone - it is more like our child. You can help this creation of yourself and your work to grow and flourish but you can't make it grow or make it be something against its nature. You can distort it though by trying to keep it small. How would it be to allow your creative project to be the size that it is natural for it to be at each stage, and to open to our capacity to handle its growth? It’s just like the way that parents </span><span style=";font-family:Arial;font-size:10;" >handle</span><span style=";font-family:Arial;font-size:10;" >, step by step, to a greater or lesser extent, their children's growth needs, and make changes in their lives as the children grow. <span style=""> </span>Parents make amazing changes they would not choose to make, and expand in ways they wouldn’t think they were capable of, as the need to serve their children’s growth draws more and more from them.<o:p></o:p></span> <p class="MsoNormal" style=""><span style=";font-family:Arial;font-size:10;" ><o:p> </o:p></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style=""><span style=";font-family:Arial;font-size:10;" >Children do and must change our lives – the same applies for creative projects. Imagine if we tried to keep our lives the same while our children grew! It's interesting to me to see my creative work projects as like children. It means they're a big commitment and one that I must surrender to. If I don't they will not flourish and may even die. No-one will condemn me if I let a project die. It's my choice. So I need to be sure that the creative projects I take on are ones that I really feel are the right ones for me. Once I decide a project is mine to create I need to surrender to meeting its needs - at the same time as I take care of “my” needs - just like with 'real' children. This will take sacrifices and big stretches and I will find and develop in myself new and exciting capacities as my creative project “children” ask me to become a greater human being. Becoming a great human being is the greatest creative project of all and the ultimate purpose of all our creative projects. I hope that excites you as much as it excites me! We can and must love our creative work projects, like they are our children, if we are to experience the sweet wellspring of love in our hearts that makes us truly human. <o:p></o:p></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style=""><span style=";font-family:Arial;font-size:10;" ><o:p> </o:p></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><b style=""><o:p> </o:p></b></p>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6194291964123113747.post-46720487211539941102007-04-26T17:37:00.000-07:002007-04-26T17:58:55.524-07:00Learning to Love, Just a Little Bit, the Things that Bug Me<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: center;" align="center"><span style=";font-family:";" ><span style=""> </span><!--[if gte vml 1]><v:shapetype id="_x0000_t75" coordsize="21600,21600" spt="75" preferrelative="t" path="m@4@5l@4@11@9@11@9@5xe" filled="f" stroked="f"> <v:stroke joinstyle="miter"> <v:formulas> <v:f eqn="if lineDrawn pixelLineWidth 0"> <v:f eqn="sum @0 1 0"> <v:f eqn="sum 0 0 @1"> <v:f eqn="prod @2 1 2"> <v:f eqn="prod @3 21600 pixelWidth"> <v:f eqn="prod @3 21600 pixelHeight"> <v:f eqn="sum @0 0 1"> <v:f eqn="prod @6 1 2"> <v:f eqn="prod @7 21600 pixelWidth"> <v:f eqn="sum @8 21600 0"> <v:f eqn="prod @7 21600 pixelHeight"> <v:f eqn="sum @10 21600 0"> </v:formulas> <v:path extrusionok="f" gradientshapeok="t" connecttype="rect"> <o:lock ext="edit" aspectratio="t"> </v:shapetype><v:shape id="_x0000_i1025" type="#_x0000_t75" style="'width:52.5pt;"> <v:imagedata src="file:///C:\DOCUME~1\ALICEA~1\LOCALS~1\Temp\msohtml1\01\clip_image001.wmz" title="MCj03510120000[1]"> </v:shape><![endif]--><!--[if !vml]--><!--[endif]--><span style=""> </span><!--[if gte vml 1]><v:shape id="_x0000_i1026" type="#_x0000_t75" style="'width:54pt;height:51.75pt'"> <v:imagedata src="file:///C:\DOCUME~1\ALICEA~1\LOCALS~1\Temp\msohtml1\01\clip_image003.wmz" title="MCj03318300000[1]"> </v:shape><![endif]--><!--[if !vml]--><!--[endif]--></span><span style=";font-family:Jokerman;font-size:16;" lang="EN-AU" ><o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal"><span style="" lang="EN-AU"><o:p></o:p></span><span style="" lang="EN-AU"><o:p> </o:p></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span style="" lang="EN-AU"><o:p></o:p></span><br /></p><p style="margin-left: 0.25in; font-family: trebuchet ms;font-family:arial;"><span style="" lang="EN-AU"><o:p>Did you know that the more little things in your life you unconsciously allow to "bug" you, the harder it is to love your life? Every little irritation like this sets up negative reactions inside you and </o:p></span><span style="" lang="EN-AU"><span style="font-style: italic;">uselessly</span> </span><span style="" lang="EN-AU"><o:p>drains away your life energy that is the precious fuel for being creative and productive and having fun. So what to do? There's a little exercise I call <span style="font-size:130%;">Learning to Love Just Little Bit the Things That Bug You </span>that really works. Here's the exercise:<br /></o:p></span></p> <p style="margin-left: 0.25in; font-family: trebuchet ms;"><b style=""><span style="">Step 1:</span></b><span style=""> Recall for one minute <b style="">one to three TRIVIAL, EVERY DAY THINGS</b> that get on your nerves, that you tolerate with gritted teeth, or that you complain about a lot but they still don’t change.<span style=""> Write them down.<br /></span></span></p><span style="font-family: trebuchet ms;font-family:Jokerman;font-size:16;" lang="EN-AU" ></span><span style="font-family: trebuchet ms;" lang="EN-AU"></span><span style="font-family: trebuchet ms;font-family:";" ><o:p></o:p></span> <p style="margin-left: 0.25in; font-family: trebuchet ms;"><span style=""><o:p></o:p></span><b style=""><span style="">Step 2:</span></b><span style=""> Choose one of the above three things and reflect on what bugs you about it. <o:p></o:p></span></p> <p style="margin-left: 0.25in; font-family: trebuchet ms;"><span style=""><o:p></o:p>Now ask yourself: What could be valuable about this? How could I see this thing as OK, or as a learning opportunity or a useful challenge or in some way look<span style=""> </span>at this thing that bugs me differently, a little bit (or a lot) more positively? <o:p></o:p></span></p> <p style="margin-left: 0.25in; font-family: trebuchet ms;"><span style="">Maybe even go so far as to ask: What valuable message might this thing have for me?<span style=""> </span><o:p></o:p></span></p> <p style="margin-left: 0.25in; font-family: trebuchet ms;"><span style="">Write down a couple of points.<o:p><br /></o:p></span></p> <p style="margin-left: 0.25in; font-family: trebuchet ms;"><b style=""><span style="">Step 3:</span></b><span style=""><span style=""> Notice how you feeeeeel now when you look at or think about that thing.</span> I'd be very surprised of you don't feel very different, much more lively and happy.<br /></span></p><p style="margin-left: 0.25in; font-family: trebuchet ms;"><span style="">Do this exercise often!<br /></span></p><p style="margin-left: 0.25in; font-family: trebuchet ms;"><span style="">Share what you discovered with a friend.</span></p><br /><p style="margin-left: 0.25in;"><br /></p><p style="margin-left: 0.25in;"><br /><span style=";font-family:";" ><span style=""> </span></span><span style=";font-family:";" lang="EN-AU"><o:p></o:p></span></p>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0